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Are You Married To Your Custody Deal?

relationships360 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 10:14:19 +0000

What You Can (and can’t) Change Post Divorce

By NANCY PERRY

Once your family law court signs your order for custody, access and possession, and child support, that case is not closed out per se. Courts that hear family law issues are called courts of continuing jurisdiction. What this means is these orders may need modifying as the child grows and the circumstances of the parties change over time. For this reason, the court that signed the order, or issuing state, will maintain jurisdiction over the case until your last child turns 18.

If the order needs to be changed, then the modification action must be filed in the original issuing court. The only time this will not be the case is if all of the parties move out of the issuing state or if there is an emergency and the non-issuing state needs to hear the matter and deal with it immediately. Here are some answers for some frequently asked questions on changing custody arrangements.

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Are You A Woman Paying Alimony?

relationships360 — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:42:45 +0000

Finances: More Women Making More Money Means More Men Getting Spousal Support

By LENORE SKOMAL

It’s not rare anymore. In fact, in the last 30 years, like it or not, more and more women who end their marriages are stuck paying support to their ex-spouses — also known as “manimony.” “When I started practicing 30 years ago, I didn’t see it at all. Zero. And now I see it in about 10 percent of my cases – female clients having to pay their ex-husbands support,” said Lynne Gold-Bikin, 65, family law chair at WolfBlock LLP based in Morristown, Penn. “Part of the reason is the simple fact that over that period of time, more women are making more money. You wanted to be equal, well now you are. Women who pay spousal support are those who quite simply make more money than their husbands do.”

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Top 10 Sexiest Twitter Dudes

relationships360 — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 10:16:15 +0000

Guess what? Twitter is sexy and these guys are the proof.

When I announced my Top 5 Sexiest Twitter Dudes last January, the blog post flattered many of the men on the ist and while most of them are still tweeting and definitely sexy as all hell, there are other men who have dethrowned them and will now take a seat on my list of the Top 10 Sexiest Twitter Dudes.

If you don’t think there’s anything sexy about Twitter – think again. As I wrote in my Top 5 Sexiest Twitter Dudes post, “people don’t just like Twitter because of the information we can share and the friendships we can form – the place is also a gigantic flirtatious chat room.”

Think about it. We all flirt every day in the flesh – why not on Twitter?

If you’re new to Twitter and want to find out how to get the most of your time check out my post for Twitter Virgins or Twirgins. And if you’re not on Twitter yet – you will be sign up (takes a few seconds) and start following these guys.

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Visitation question: I could use some advice.

relationships360 — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 21:11:46 +0000

My ex is supposed to have my son on the Saturday of Labor day weekend from 9am-1pm. He asked me if he could switch to the Sunday instead since his mother is coming to visit and he’d like her to see him. Normally I don’t have a problem with that, but it just so happens that I have family coming from Miami to GA to visit us on that Sunday and we’ve already made plans. I haven’t seen these people since my wedding day almost 7yrs ago and they’ve never met my son so I really don’t feel I need to change my plans for him and his mom who comes approx once a month to visit. I explained to my ex that I already had plans and what they were so he wouldn’t feel like I was trying to be difficult. I told him if anything changes, that I’d let him know.

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Co-Parenting Tips

relationships360 — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 13:22:03 +0000

my situation. Once you get past the initial devastation of separation and divorce, you can think a little more clearly about this subject.

That doesn’t make it any easier. It’s hard to let your children go with someone you harbor so much resentment about and who was a party to so much pain in your life, but you have to.

So maybe I can help you bite your tongue a bit and make things a little easier on everyone, especially your kids. After all, they are our main concern. My kids always had problems with the transition between me and him. Partly because I’m very close with my kids, and partly because he’s lived some places they didn’t feel comfortable in.

He’s moved a lot, a couple of apartments, a couple of girlfriends’ homes, his parents’ home. It’s hard on kids. I tried to make the transition easier by mentally preparing them for their visit. I talked with them about the fun things they would do. Wouldn’t it be good to get to spend some time with Dad? Have you missed him this week? What fun did they have last time they went? Maybe they would go see their favorite cousins.

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A Parent Looks 40

relationships360 — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 06:50:24 +0000

Another one of our favorite single father bloggers, singledads, just posted this:

This post is overdue, because 40 started last year. Try not to hold it against me; my brain really only became 40 in the last few months, so bear with me.

I began Single Dads for a couple of reasons. One was to serve as a constant reminder what it was like to be a single dad with daughter, from the beginning, and the other was to have a first hand source of the thoughts, emotions, and trials of a single parent available for my daughter to read when she became old enough to view it. For quite a while now, it’s done exactly that. I believe, however, that this blog enters a new age, as tonight, I came to some realizations that I’m finally able to share is some intelligent way.

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Hiding in my kid’s suitcase

relationships360 — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 11:23:01 +0000

One of my favorite bloggers, SingleMomSeeking, had this great post recently:

I’ve spent the past few days re-reading your advice about letting my kid go to Hawaii. Alone.

“You’ll miss her, but you’ll get over it,” wrote Jen at Semantically Driven. “I’m sure you deserve a week to yourself.”

“Do it,” commanded Bad Mummy. “Some space is good for the both of you.”

John at Single Parent Travel even included a super detailed kid’s packing list in his comment!

First, thank you so much for chiming in! But here’s what kind of shocked me: NOT one of you told me to keep my kid at home.

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Missing Your Kid after Divorce?

relationships360 — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 11:37:10 +0000

Michael Gough has a “hobby.” It is virtual visitation. While the Craft and Hobby Association probably doesn’t recognize the idea, Gough maintains it is his pastime nonetheless. “This is a hobby. It found me. I didn’t find it,” Gough said of virtual visitation.

In many respects, however, Gough could easily be considered a founding father of virtual or online visitation. Today, he certainly serves as a major advocate and information source hosting not one, but two, Web sites on the topic.

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Dads See Stepfathers as Threat

relationships360 — Tue, 04 Aug 2009 15:14:57 +0000

Stepparents are a fact of life for many of the children growing up in the United States over the past decade. According to the 1998 Census, 32 percent of U.S. children were living in situations that didn’t include both biological parents. Of those children, roughly 30 percent are living with a stepparent, according to the National Stepfamily Resource Center (NSRC), a division of Auburn University’s Center for Children, Youth and Families.

“In our culture we have such an emphasis on one mother and one father,” said Francesca Adler-Baeder, director of Auburn’s family center. “The traditional family roles are so ingrained in all of us.” Meanwhile, the truth is somewhat divorced from that image.

I Do Not Want To Know

relationships360 — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 10:03:39 +0000

Found this at Families.com:

Along the way on my path in being single I have learned many things. This was not by choice, but rather out of desperation that comes from having to do things for yourself. I hate it. I hate not being able to say to someone, “It is broken. Will you fix it, please?” No, there is none of that anymore. Some of you may like being this independent and enjoy being single and that is great. It is not for me though. You might love the fact that you can fix things; however, I really do not care about it one way or the other. Of the things that I have been able to fix most of it looks terrible. It is an amateur job and I will be the first one to admit it. Nonetheless, I did save some money by doing it myself. Proud of myself? Well, umm, hold two fingers together about an inch apart and that is the extent of my pride.

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